• On Children: Leadership and Control
    The text explores leadership insights through Kahlil Gibran’s views on parenting, emphasizing that individuals in organizations are not possessions. Micromanagement, driven by fear, hampers trust and creativity. Effective leadership involves creating space for growth, fostering coaching cultures, and prioritizing succession planning, ultimately encouraging innovation and meaningful development over control.
  • On Joy and Sorrow: Great Leaders Don’t Bypass Discomfort
    The passage discusses leadership lessons derived from Khalil Gibran’s “The Prophet,” emphasizing the interconnectedness of joy and sorrow. It asserts that leaders must embrace emotional maturity to foster genuine creativity and innovation, as avoiding discomfort leads to fragile cultures. Effective leaders create environments where truth and vulnerability thrive, enhancing trust and accountability. “Good vibes only” is not leadership. It’s emotional avoidance.
  • On Self Knowledge: The Power of Introspection
    The content discusses leadership lessons derived from Khalil Gibran’s “The Prophet,” emphasizing that effective leadership starts with self-knowledge. Unexamined leaders project their unresolved issues onto their teams, creating toxic environments. True leadership involves introspection, where understanding oneself leads to ethical influence, better relationships, and a more trustworthy presence amid challenges. No workshop can replace the courage to look inward.
  • On Love: The Power of Love in Leadership
    Leadership often overlooks love, equating it with weakness, yet it is central to loyalty and ethical behavior. Effective leaders balance accountability and care, fostering a culture of psychological safety. Love manifests as commitment, honest feedback, and responsible decision-making, ultimately shaping trust and creating environments where individuals thrive beyond mere performance metrics.
  • On Teaching: Embracing Coaching Over Commanding
    Leadership has evolved from knowledge transfer to awakening capability. Effective leaders inspire others, prioritize self-directed learning, and practice coaching rather than commanding. By fostering psychological safety and autonomy, they enable teams to thrive and develop their own expertise. True leadership is measured by team growth, not individual knowledge.
  • The Unextraordinary Life
    Life often appears ordinary with its routines, but moments of unexpected change reveal how dreams can transform rather than disappear. We frequently overlook the beauty in simplicity, such as laughter, nature, and daily experiences. Embracing the unextraordinary can lead to a deeper appreciation of life’s small, luminous joys.
  • Grounded Money Manifestation
    Feeling anxious about money is human and normal. Instead of letting fear control decisions, acknowledge it and focus on actionable steps. Manifesting isn’t about denial but directing attention constructively. Embracing uncertainty allows for growth, while avoiding risk may lead to regret. Choose movement and curiosity over paralysis to foster self-trust.
  • 10 Ways to Make Yourself Angry and to Keep Yourself Angry – A Field Guide
    This satire highlights common habits that contribute to anger, backed by psychological research. These include assuming others are incompetent, personalizing actions, doomscrolling, ruminating on grievances, and unrealistic expectations. The article emphasizes that these behaviors can be reversed, encouraging self-awareness and the possibility of managing anger more healthily.
  • It’s ok to ask for help, but don’t become helpless.
    The post emphasizes the power of individual agency in overcoming feelings of helplessness. It urges readers to reject victimhood and take ownership of their lives. While seeking support is important, it should not replace personal responsibility. Change can start small, and each step contributes to a more fulfilling life narrative.
  • Not a Fit Doesn’t Mean Not Enough: Job Loss
    Job loss challenges personal identity and security. Key lessons include the importance of financial preparation for future stability, recognizing that true success encompasses well-being, understanding the impact of workplace relationships, and engaging in introspection during transitions. Ultimately, self-worth and identity should not be tied to employment, as new opportunities may arise.
  • Victim, Blame, and Choosing Your Response: Moving Beyond Victimhood
    Experiencing harm does not mean one must adopt a victim mentality. While feeling wronged is natural, it’s essential to recognize one’s ability to choose responses. By distinguishing between victimhood and mentality, individuals can reclaim control, build self-efficacy, and move forward. Acknowledge pain, assign blame responsibly, and empower oneself through deliberate choices.
  • Why Obsessing Over Someone Else’s Behavior Keeps You Stuck
    Interpersonal rumination involves negative thinking about others’ actions, causing frustration and powerlessness. This pattern can lead to increased anger, anxiety, and strained relationships. To break the cycle, one should shift focus from blame to personal agency and boundaries. Healing comes from internal reflection rather than waiting for others to change.
  • When Self-Awareness Helps and When It Hurts: Reflection vs. Rumination
    Self-awareness can lead to personal growth or self-criticism. Reflection promotes understanding and improvement, while rumination traps individuals in negative thought cycles, harming self-esteem. The key is distinguishing between the two, fostering reflection to use self-awareness as a tool for constructive change.
  • A Neighbor, Her Kindness, and the Courage to Accept Help
    The author reflects on the difficulty of asking for help, stemming from a personal crisis during pregnancy and a cheating spouse. A supportive neighbor, Sandy, teaches the author that accepting help signifies strength, not weakness. This experience highlights the importance of connection and the courage found in vulnerability.
  • Simple Process Improvement Techniques for Everyday Life
    The author reflects on the benefits of Lean and Six Sigma tools, emphasizing their simplicity in everyday life. By applying these methods to personal situations, particularly with children, one can effectively influence desired outcomes through structured thinking and action.
  • Understanding Comparison: A Tool for Growth or a Trap?
    The article explores the dual nature of comparison, questioning whether it is inherently harmful. It categorizes comparison into three types: upward, downward, and lateral. Positive reframing of comparisons can foster motivation and personal growth. The author shares personal insights on shifting from envy to encouragement, advocating for empowering perspectives in social comparisons.
  • Staying Stuck, Three Ways
    The content emphasizes the dangers of remaining stagnant by adhering to familiar routines and avoiding new ideas. It advocates for recognizing habits that trap individuals and encourages a shift in perspective to reveal opportunities for growth. Additionally, it recommends various resources that can aid in breaking free from stagnation.
  • Why to Forget the Why (Sometimes)
    In my younger years, I believed that understanding my emotions and beliefs was necessary for change. Over time, I learned to let go of this need for understanding, focusing instead on the change itself. This shift not only facilitated change but often led to insights about my previous behaviors later on.
  • Don’t Have Time to Read? Your Commute Might Disagree
    The post emphasizes the importance of continuous learning and presents reading and listening as effective methods for acquiring knowledge. It highlights Audible as a tool for integrating learning into daily routines, particularly during commutes. The author notes a promotional offer for new users and mentions earning commissions from purchases.
  • How to Be Mean to Yourself Without Even Realizing It (A Field Guide)
    Many habits can lead to self-hate without awareness. They often start as coping mechanisms but become comfortable routines. To combat self-loathing, one should recognize these patterns and choose different actions. Simple practices, like interrupting negative thoughts and aligning choices with personal values, can help break the cycle of self-criticism.
  • Think you can have it all?
    Life often leads us on a path of routine, where we chase goals without reflecting on their relevance. As we grow, our dreams evolve, prompting a reassessment of our values and choices. It’s vital to ensure our actions align with what truly matters to us, as time is limited and invaluable.
  • Finding Purpose in Every Moment
    The text emphasizes that life is a collection of moments, each holding purpose and value. It challenges the idea of a singular, overarching purpose, advocating instead for recognizing multiple purposes that arise from daily actions and relationships. Ultimately, meaning is co-created through choices in how we live our lives.
  • Reconnect with Your Body: Practical Tips
    The body often knows our emotional truths before our mind does, guiding us toward healing through movement, stillness, or nourishment. Acknowledging uncomfortable truths without shame is essential for growth. It’s possible to hold contradictory feelings simultaneously, reflecting our humanity. Gentle acceptance of these truths paves the way for healing and self-discovery.
  • Understanding the Shift from Opinion to Judgment
    Ever thought about when opinions become unhelpful judgments? How can you check yourself for the difference? When we hold an opinion, there is usually an element of openness and grounded self-awareness. Emotionally, opinions tend to feel calm, steady, and flexible. We recognize that our perspective comes from our own experiences, and we remain open to… Read more: Understanding the Shift from Opinion to Judgment
  • Hard to schedule during the holidays? -host Thanksmas
    After divorce, the author created “Thanksmas,” a hybrid celebration for Thanksgiving and Christmas on a Saturday in December. This open-house event fosters joy and community, attracting numerous guests over the years. With a mix of festive recipes and decorations, Thanksmas emerged as a personal tradition, alleviating holiday stress and enhancing family connections.
  • 7 Reflection Prompts to Boost Leadership
    Effective leadership combines strategy with self-awareness. This week’s reflection prompts encourage leaders to pause and assess their energy, listening skills, decision-making, connections, learning, release of burdens, and focus on priorities for improved leadership.
  • Understanding the Cost of Feeling Unheard
    Feeling misunderstood taps into deep psychological needs for connection and validation. Research highlights that feeling heard involves voice, attention, empathy, and respect. Miscommunication often arises from mismatched perceptions, leading to frustration and feelings of insignificance. Prioritizing emotional clarity and validation in communication fosters connections essential for emotional well-being and relationship satisfaction.
  • Curiosity: Lessons from a “Broken” Pen
    You never know what will spark a good team laugh (or lesson). For us, it was a pen no one knew how to use!
  • Embracing Change: The Power of Many Right Answers
    We’re told to chase the right answer.The right job.The right partner.The right version of ourselves. What if “right” isn’t singular? What if your truth can change shape as you grow? The older I get, the more I see how messy, layered, and paradoxical life is. You can be confident and uncertain. Grateful and grieving. Strong… Read more: Embracing Change: The Power of Many Right Answers
  • It’s Always Something
    “It’s always something,” right?We usually say it with a sigh when plans go sideways or life throws us off course. We are right, life IS always something. Life IS always something. That’s what makes it beautiful. http://www.hg-people.com Make space for your magic by HG_People Color outside your comfort zone by HG_People
  • The Next Best Step
    Achieving personal and professional goals requires taking the next best step, guided by your inner voice. Reconnecting with it allows for unique paths toward growth and meaningful change, tailored to individual preferences and experiences.
  • Don’t Read the Negative Comments
    Negative comments can haunt creators. Resist the inner critic’s doubts. Choose to prioritize peace and progress over negativity to enhance your creative journey.
  • Tree by Tree: A Guide to Nature’s Lessons
    The post highlights the beauty of changing leaves as a reminder of nature’s lessons and introduces the book “Tree by Tree,” designed for reflection and inspiration through the contemplation of 30 trees.
  • Want better communication? Start noticing this…
    Effective communication requires awareness of our defensiveness, which can hinder connection. Recognizing our defense mechanisms allows for clearer understanding and improved relationships, both personally and professionally, fostering openness and trust.
  • Side Hustle Saturday!
    The article discusses various side hustles the author engages in, including selling photography and artwork on platforms like Fine Art America and Zazzle, renting space through Peerspace, affiliate marketing with Amazon, and publishing books via Amazon KDP. The author invites readers to share their own side hustles and experiences.
  • Overcoming How Ego Sneaks Into Everyday Parenting (and Work Too)
    The author reflects on the frustration parents feel when repeating instructions to their children, recognizing it as a manifestation of ego. They emphasize the importance of adjusting one’s approach and reframing situations to foster understanding, highlighting that practice and awareness can ease emotional burdens.
  • Bull in a China Shop
    Ever feel like you’re in that old Sesame Street song, “One of these things is not like the other”? You come into a meeting expecting collaboration and critical thinking. You share a frustration or a contrary idea and the air shifts. You feel it in your body. There is a tightness in your chest. You start second-guessing yourself. You scan the room for someone who “gets what you’re trying to share.” Silence follows, and suddenly, it feels like you did something wrong.
  • Boost Your Energy with PLAY: A Simple Guide
    To enhance your energy and combat daily stress, embrace the concept of PLAY. Pause for gratitude, listen to your feelings, allow yourself to experience emotions, and yearn for joyful moments, creating space for joy in your everyday life.
  • What Can You Learn from All Things Around You?
    What Can You Learn from Victorian Floriography? What if the flowers in your garden were quietly teaching you resilience, patience, or even the art of letting go? It might sound whimsical, but the Victorians believed flowers were messengers. Direct expression was frowned upon in that age. So they developed floriography—a language of flowers. It communicated… Read more: What Can You Learn from All Things Around You?
  • People-First Leadership: Building Connections for Success
    A people-first philosophy, grounded in a clear connection to company strategy, allowed me to find deeper purpose. It helped not just in supporting others’ growth, but in meaningfully contributing to the company’s success as well. This is a nod to those of you doing this work every day behind the scenes. To you I tip my hat, the power of your work might be quiet, but it’s deeply important.
  • Leadership Is Built in the Conversations No One Sees
    Leadership is often quiet behind the scenes work.
  • Boost Team Culture: Welcome New Hires Effectively
    There was a point in my career where I had a team of around 18 people. When a new person joined, I asked the folks in their area to share a fun fact. They also provided a specific item I asked about. I would place the photo and fact in a table within an email.… Read more: Boost Team Culture: Welcome New Hires Effectively
  • The Cost of Indirect Feedback in Organizations
    During a meeting, a direct report outside of VP1’s organization shows visible frustration. The reaction is about a topic important to that senior leader. What happens next? Reaction A: VP1 escalates the perceived frustration to the CEO, triggering a cascade of communication across multiple leadership levels. The message passes through the CEO, VP2, and Director1… Read more: The Cost of Indirect Feedback in Organizations
  • Creating Consistent Training: Simple Steps for Every Business
    Training plans are essential to prevent inconsistency in performance. Document standard processes, keep them updated, recognize audience needs, and ensure easy access to materials for effective employee training.
  • Embracing Multiple Truths for Personal Growth
    The content emphasizes that multiple truths and answers exist in life, urging readers to recognize their own value and trust in their decision-making. Embracing complexity enables personal and professional growth without fear of perfection.
  • Your Thoughts Aren’t Facts: College Edition
    For Everyone Who Loves a College Student College isn’t just textbooks and pizza rolls.It’s late-night questions like: “Am I failing at everything?”“Why does everyone else seem like they’ve got it together?”“Is it just me?” Here’s something most students never hear in orientation: ✨ Your thoughts aren’t facts. Your feelings aren’t final. ✨ Just because a… Read more: Your Thoughts Aren’t Facts: College Edition
  • Busy ≠ Important
    I stopped answering “Busy” when people asked, How are you? Now I say: “My days are full.” It’s not about doing more.It’s about choosing better. Busy isn’t a badge of honor. Want more like this?Get Rooted and Real on Kindle Unlimited, Kindle for 2.99 or paperback for 7.99 It is a practical and honest guide… Read more: Busy ≠ Important
  • Transforming No into Opportunity: A Growth Mindset
    You wanted it. You prepared for it. You were ready for it. And then it didn’t happen. You didn’t get the job. The promotion didn’t go through. The project got canceled. It felt like the end of the world. It was at least the end of another thing to bring you closer to what you want. What if that “no” or detour wasn’t a failure at all? When we have goals, it’s natural to push for them. You show up. You work hard. You go all in. If it still doesn’t work out, it’s easy to think: “Maybe I wasn’t good enough.” “Maybe I did something wrong.”
  • What you think or feel isn’t always true
    (An excerpt from Rooted and Real ) Ever catch yourself spiraling based on something you thought someone meant… or something you felt deeply in the moment—but later realized wasn’t quite true? Here’s a hard but freeing truth:Not everything you think or feel is actually true. Yes, your feelings are valid. But they’re not always facts.Your… Read more: What you think or feel isn’t always true
  • Overcoming the Urge to Quit: Simple Strategies
    That feeling of trying to get or to keep going. Think of trying to push a stalled car. At first, it takes a lot of effort if we have to push it with no power behind the gas pedal. Let’s talk about ways you can get yourself going or keep yourself going. Stopping, means more effort to get going again for something that stalled out. Knowing how to start AND how to keep going are both important to utilize your power. Let’s look at how to keep going when you want to quit.
  • Optimizing Customer Onboarding through Data-Driven Training
    Utilizing call center data significantly enhances training and development strategies. By analyzing common customer inquiries, targeted training interventions were implemented, reducing questions significantly and improving new customer satisfaction. The case emphasizes the importance of clear data in identifying learning challenges and designing effective training, ultimately enriching the customer experience.
  • Challenge or Opportunity, Take Your Pick
    Life presents both challenges and opportunities; how you frame them impacts growth. Personal experiences, such as a breakup, can teach resilience and emotional independence. Similarly, identifying and addressing issues in professional settings enables improvement. Viewing problems as teachers reveals hidden opportunities for learning, growth, and leadership in various aspects of life.
  • The Silent Breakdown: Trust Issues in Leadership
    The content discusses the often unseen disconnect between leaders and their teams, where leaders remain unaware of team members’ suppressed honesty due to fear. This dynamic erodes trust, leading to a culture of agreement without genuine feedback. To improve, leaders must align their actions with a commitment to fostering open communication and trust.
  • The Dance of Love and Hate: Finding Balance
    The reflections explore the interplay between love and hate, emphasizing the significance of their interaction rather than focusing solely on one. It suggests that joy and sorrow are interconnected, shaping our responses to life’s challenges. Ultimately, the piece advocates for transformative power in combating hate with love, promoting healing and growth.
  • Are You Rooted in the Right Soil?
    Sometimes we act like a tree growing in concrete. We try to grow while stuck in that cracked concrete wasteland. We forget that we don’t have to be “that tree.” We forget we have a choice to go find fertile soil. We can choose to replant ourselves into soil that matches our needs. As a result, we can grow larger, be healthier, and develop faster.
  • Overcoming Low Motivation: Tips to Keep Going
    My heart is not in it today. I didn’t get enough sleep or for whatever reason, blah. That feeling of trying to get or to keep going. Think of trying to push a stalled car. At first, it takes a lot of effort. We have to push it without any power behind the gas pedal.… Read more: Overcoming Low Motivation: Tips to Keep Going
  • Finding Your Value: The Pickle Parable
    Ever lost something that was right in front of you? We do that with our value, too. #PicklesAndPerspective #SelfReflection
  • Overcoming Job Loss: Break Free from Rumination
    Losing a job can bring up waves of feelings over the days after that experience. You want to prove that you were valuable. You secretly wish for karma to get whoever you feel was responsible for your job loss. On top of that, fear and anxiety about finding a new source of income can feel overwhelming. It’s easy to get stuck ruminating.

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